A Divergence Of Opinion

As some of you will know, I have a page on Facebook and one of the applications on that page is something called "Hunk of the Day" or such like. "Adam" who is featured on the left is the hunk du jour.

Judging from the comments left about him, these fall into 3 categories:

1. Comments from the gay boys - all of whom seem to think he's really hot;
2. Comments from girls - those who think he's hot; and
3. Comments from other girls - those who don't think he's hot

There doesn't seem to be any simple explanation as to why there seems to be a divergence of opinion other than beauty lies in the eye of the beholder but the homos (me included, so don't whinge about the word being derogatory) seem to have a homogenous view as to his attractiveness (who cares if he's got a squeaky voice?).

Amongst the ladies, there seems to be two opposing views - some would like to jump him immediately (as would us gay boys - we saw him first ladies - hands off - you know that if we fight you for him, we'll definitely win!) - and some who don't care for him at all.

Up until today, I had mostly thought that women and gay boys tended to have similar tastes in men but that myth has well and truly been shattered today.

So what is it that women look for in a man or more specifically, what do women find attractive in a man? I suspect that generations of straight guys have been trying to figure that one out, but with no success.

Perhaps us gay guys have gotten smart and realised that since we're not going to be able figure women out, we might as well not bother. Between men and men, it's much simpler, particularly between gay men. Physically and sexually, it's a lot more straightforward as well - between gay men, you never have to wonder whether your lover really had an orgasm or whether he was just faking it, like some (many?) girls do. Also, since when do you read in magazines about men feeling frigid and not wanting sex?

How men and women ever got together to breed is sometimes beyond comprehension - it's truly a Venus and Mars thing. Fortunately for our species, however, men and women often enough manage to overcome their differences or else homo sapiens would be extinct soon, if not already!

As for me, I don't really care what the ladies think. He's definitely what I'd look for in a man - purely from a physical perspective - that gets him 35% out of 100% on my scorecard. As for the remaining 65% of what he could potentially score, that will depend on his non-physical attributes. There's not much point having a pretty boy as your partner but apart from that you might have absolutely nothing in common and it won't be long before pretty boy finds himself another prettier boy than you. We're much better of with ordinary looking boys (not necessarily plain - you'll find me quite accepting in this regard) but whose non-physical attributes make him more compatible with you.

Of course, if you manage to find yourself a pretty boy whose brainy and amusing and is in every other way compatabile with you, do your best to hang on to him - he's definitely a keeper. There's not many of those around.